Age gaps within the homosexual community?

Another observation I found astounding was the huge age differences. I noticed males in their 50s and 60s looking for males some 30+ years their junior. Is this the norm?

With hetrosexuals we only have age gaps of maybe 3-4 years for a partner or sexual contacts.

I saw quite alot of differences in this community compared with the hetrosexual community. So it is much more than just being attracted to the same sex. It seems to be a completley different way they interact in many ways.

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ive noticed this too, and i personally dont understand it, but watever makes ppl happy!!! : )

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This is the 2nd question about this that I have seen here in 2 mos. Makes me think I really must live in a bubble.

All my gay couple friends have around 2 - 5 years difference between them. I'm talking average. Plus I do know lots of older guys, both single and coupled, and they aren't interested in younger guys at all -- their own age or as close as they can get is what they like.

But yes, being gay is more than jsut being attracted to the same sex. Back in the 60s they used to say "A gay man is not a straight man who happens to like men."

I think that is totally true.
Really, from what I've seen a lot of older heterosexual men in their 50's-60's have tried to get with women who just turned 18.
Its a lot not alot.
Which heterosexuals and homosexuals are you talking about?

Three of my friends are married to their partner who is 10+ years older or younger than them, and they are heterosexual.

Not to mention that I am constantly hit on by forty-year old men... one time I was hit on by a sixty to seventy year old man which was just a wee bit creepy.
They are worse among the heterosexual community imho.
We are not freaks of nature that "interact" with one another! We have feelings and lovers and jokes and we are normal! Gay people don't always look for people 20 or 30 years younger, thats nonsense! My fathers are less then 3 years apart from one another, and i just don't understand your prejudices about gay people and their age distance from their partners! Just let us, do what we want!

by the way, im a bisexual myself. That's why this really got me aggravated!
My grandfather and grandmother on my father's side were 10 years apart (he died when I was 2). My mother and father are only 3 months apart age wise. It depends upon the individual greatly. There are lots of creepy old guys trying to get with the hot young girls, I assure you.

Again, like the last question, you observed this on a dating site? That does -not- encompass the entire community. You're being silly.
i know alot of gay couples all in close age

maybe your referring to random experiences or something
My Grandmother is 54 dating a man in his 70's. It isn't that rare in the straight community either.

My step-grandpa (that my grandmother is now divorcing) is still in his late 40's.

My mom was in her early 30's and was engaged to a man in his late 40's.

A guy that tried to hook up with my mom is 20 and my mom is 36. (She wouldn't date him)
3-4 years? Where do you live and who do you socialize with?

It seems to be pretty even to me. Old men like to date younger partners. In heteros, they are young females, in homos, they are male. I think it is just more visible to you because the age difference is accepted with heteros. The term "sugar daddy" didn't exactly come out of the homosexual community.

Just think of Hefner and those bunnies.
There are great age gaps in couples of all sexual orientation. I could go on and on listing hetero couples who date/marry partners of vastly different ages.

I guess I wonder what you are really trying to get at with your question??
Older homosexual males look for younger homosexual male partners only because the younger generations of gays are more likely to be open about it, therefore they are more likely to find a partner. A lot of gay men in their 50's and 60's today either are still in the closet, or choose to live alone, not part of the gay community for whatever reasons.
I believe you are living in a sheltered world. In straight scenes, it is very common for older men to be married to much younger women, and not that uncommon (today) to see much older women married to young men....it isn't the age that matters as much as the inner person today.

In Gay society, many younger men LIKE the fact that older men know men's bodies, take their time, are kinder, more patient, and usually far better lovers than are younger men...young men seem to like to get off in a hurry, older men like to string it out...and many younger guys are just discovering the pleasures that this brings. BUT, in general, I don't see younger men flocking to older men, any more than I see younger women flocking to older men...Younger men may love sex with an older, more experienced man, but as for lovers, the odds are that the sampling of Straights to Gays, considering the ratios of Straights to Gays, is probably about the same. There are just people who prefer seriously older mates, period, on both sides of the fence.

And, there is a more pervasive logic going on here that you may or may not know about. Many younger gay men are hooked on Crystal Meth...and that drug makes it almost impossible to get off...it takes serious time! Guys who like to PNP love older men who take it slow and easy, and in fact, many of the Tina users are happy enough if it just goes on all night, no one ever ending. I suspect that is also a reason that older men are so popular today. AND, older guys are usually tops! Guys on Crystal Meth cannot get it up, so they are on bottom, loving every second, minute, etc. of an older top who can get it up and keep it up without the finale happening too soon. There is much reasoning going on that you are unaware of here, and this is an insight for you. I am an older gay man...I know what I am talking about. 20-30 year olds are constantly emailing me for sex....I do not particularly like seriously younger guys..they do not excite me, for they lack experience in sensuality. And, personally, I do not like sex with guys who PNP....it is boring, being kind...and sex should never be boring.

Perhaps Gays see beyond young skin and look into serious pleasure. We do not have to "show off our trophies" as so many older Straight men do...Younger guys are NOT the trophies they may think they are, and neither are younger women...they are just people and should be treated as a person, not an object. Peace from Goldwing
It's not a gay vs straight thing.

It is a MALE thing. Straight men ARE also attracted to much younger women and there is even the popular "school girl" fantasy many straight men have. Look at how many old decrepit men were lusting over Britney Spears when she just came out. Look at all the sugar daddies with girls young enough to be their daughter or granddaughter.

In general men seem to have a harder time making a distinction once a young person becomes sexually mature. They are attracted to visual stimulus, so if it LOOKS old enough, men tend to go for it.

Women on the other hand are attracted to emotional stimulus and that is harder to disguise if you are emotionally immature. Plus women tend to hold on to a more maternal approach to a younger person.

But lately, some women are going after young male students, so that might be changing.
No big age gaps aren't the "norm" some older men I guess just want to get back in touch with the kid inside them with younger guys.. or the younger guy just wants a sugar daddy... I don't agree with your hetro age gaps of only 3-4 years... I've seen and heard quite a few with rather large age gaps between husband %26amp; wife.